Attachment-based Therapy for Depression and Relationship Issues
In Los Altos, California
Heal the wounds that are showing up in your relationships.
Psychoanalytic and depth therapy for adults struggling with childhood trauma and depression and repeating relationship patterns, throughout CA. and WA.
Life may look good on paper. Inside, your world feels stagnant and numb. Depression, anxiety, and relationship struggles often show up quietly, shaping how you relate to yourself and others. Heal the wounds that are showing up in your relationships through attachment-based therapy for depression and relationship struggles.
You don’t know how to truly relax, as if you’re always bracing for something bad.
You struggle to answer the seemingly simple question, “How are you feeling?”
You take care of everyone else while your own needs get overlooked.
You second-guess yourself and hear a constant voice saying you could’ve done better.
You crave closeness but pull away when someone gets too near.
You long for care and support but feel guilty or ashamed when you ask for it.
Past experiences or family dynamics keep showing up in your adult relationships.
You rely on drinking, smoking, or your phone to get through the day.
You feel like your feelings are constantly too much for others.
You sense unresolved things from your past that need understanding.
You feel disconnected from your emotions, even in moments that should matter
Relationships start with hope but end in the same familiar frustration.
You intellectualize your feelings but struggle to actually feel them.
You feel lonely even when you’re not alone.
You feel emotionally numb or disconnected in your relationships.
You struggle with chronic low mood, anxiety, or repeating relationship patterns.
You want to feel connected and alive
Life doesn’t have to feel this heavy and tangled up. Feeling alive doesn’t mean feeling good all the time, it means having access to your full emotional range without shutting down or pulling away. Therapy helps you:
Live a slower and more reflective moment to moment
Learn to love and be loved with more ease
Experience your full range of emotions
Laugh harder and suck the marrow out of life
Understand the small moments from your past that felt off
Live a more playful and less stressed existence
Untangle family dynamics that seem to lead to dead ends
Feel less tangled in anxiety, and more steady in yourself
Learn new ways of relating that feel more natural, honest, and alive
Develop a stronger sense of self-worth that guides you through life
Hi. I’m Albert.
If you’re struggling to feel like yourself, you are in the right place. I provide attachment-based therapy for adults struggling with depression and relationship issues. Many of my clients want to feel more alive, focus on understanding the development of their inner world and family of origin, and how this is impacting their relationship with work, family, partners, friends, and of course, themselves. I practice out of Los Altos, CA, and offer virtual therapy throughout California and Washington State.
I practice from an eclectic approach, integrating relational psychoanalysis, attachment theory, existential therapy, along with other approaches as needed. Learn more about my approach here.
This work is often a good fit for people who have tried to understand themselves, but still feel stuck; who want more than tools or coping strategies; and who are curious about how early relationships continue to shape their inner world. I strongly believe that therapy offers a unique opportunity for healing and transformation. The first step is booking a consult call.
Specialities and Areas of Focus
Depression and Anxiety
You feel cut off from yourself, not quite like who you used to be. Staying in bed can feel easier than starting the day, as even small tasks carry the weight of exhaustion. You know something needs to change, but you’re unsure where to begin. Chronic depression often reflects long-standing emotional disconnection shaped by early attachment experiences and family dynamics. In attachment-based therapy for depression and anxiety, we work to understand what’s happening beneath the surface and create meaningful, lasting change that comes from you.
Self Worth and Confidence
You feel like an impostor, constantly comparing yourself to others and coming up short. At times it may feel pointless to share how you feel, as though your voice doesn’t matter. These feelings are real, but they are not the truth of who you are. Attachment and relational trauma can show up subtly, influencing mood, trust, and closeness even when there’s no clear memory of “something bad” happening. In therapy, we work to untangle family of origin stories about self-worth and confidence, helping you reconnect with a more authentic and grounded sense of self.
Relationships & Communication
You feel stuck in your repeating relationship patterns, unsure how to communicate what you’re actually feeling. A familiar sense of stagnation follows you, and words never seem to land quite right. struggles often involve repeating patterns, difficulty with intimacy, fear of abandonment, or shutting down during conflict, that trace back to early relational experiences. In relational therapy, we explore what’s happening beneath the surface, your emotional patterns, needs, and fears, so you can express yourself more clearly and feel genuinely understood. You deserve connection that feels mutual and alive.
Attachment and Inner Child Work
You know your parents were loving and well-intentioned, yet something still feels unsettled. You may wonder why closeness feels hard, or why love feels complicated. Early attachment experiences can leave lasting impressions, beliefs about being seen, heard, or allowed to feel. Family-of-origin work explores how early roles, emotional neglect, or inconsistency continue to shape adult relationships and self-esteem. Through attachment-based and inner child therapy, we explore these early patterns to help you understand yourself more clearly and move toward deeper connection.
Therapy for Men
Therapy for men often involves working with emotional disconnection, unspoken pressure, and the ways vulnerability has felt unsafe or unavailable. Many men arrive feeling depressed, irritable, or distant in relationships without a clear language for what’s happening inside. Therapy for men addresses emotional disconnection, pressure, and the ways early family and attachment experiences influence relationships, mood, and self-expression. This work creates space to explore those patterns thoughtfully, understand where they come from, and develop a fuller emotional life without losing a sense of strength or agency.
Contact Me.
Ready to take the next step? Reach out today for attachment-based therapy for depression and relationships in Los Altos, CA.
Attachment-based Therapy for Depression and Relationship Issues Frequently Asked Questions:
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Therapy can be helpful for anyone who wants to grow as a person, not only for those in crisis. Many people seek therapy because they feel stuck, disconnected, or weighed down by anxiety or depression—even when life appears stable or successful from the outside. Others come because they want to understand themselves better, deepen their relationships, or change patterns that no longer serve them.
You don’t need a diagnosis, a clear problem, or a breaking point to begin therapy. Wanting to feel more like yourself, more emotionally alive, or more grounded in how you relate to others is reason enough. Therapy offers a space to reflect, grow, and make meaning of your experiences, helping you move through life with greater clarity and intention.
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My approach to therapy is psychodynamic, attachment-based, and humanistic, with a strong relational focus. This means therapy is not one-size-fits-all. I meet you where you are, and the work is tailored to your unique history, personality, relationships, and goals. Rather than following a rigid structure, I adjust the therapy space to support you at your current growing edge.
Together, we pay attention to your inner world, emotional patterns, and relationships—both past and present—as well as what unfolds between us in the therapy room. Therapy becomes a collaborative process that evolves as you do, allowing insight, emotional depth, and change to emerge in ways that feel authentic and sustainable.
If you’d like a deeper understanding of how I work and what informs my approach, you can learn more on my About page.
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Therapy can help you function better in your day-to-day life—emotionally, relationally, and psychologically. Many people come to therapy to work through anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, self-esteem concerns, emotional disconnection, or the lasting effects of trauma. While therapy may not make life easier or remove life’s challenges, it can help you become stronger, more resilient, and more capable of meeting what life brings.
Through therapy, you can develop greater emotional awareness, clearer communication, and a deeper understanding of yourself and others. Over time, this often leads to feeling more grounded, more flexible, and better equipped to navigate stress, relationships, and transitions with intention rather than reactivity.
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Yes. I offer secure online therapy for adults in California and Washington. Virtual therapy sessions take place through a private, HIPAA-compliant video platform and offer the same depth, consistency, and effectiveness as in-person therapy. Many clients find online therapy allows for greater flexibility, comfort, and accessibility, making it easier to engage in the therapeutic process.
Online therapy can be especially helpful if you have a busy schedule, prefer the privacy of your own space, or are seeking therapy that fits more seamlessly into your life. Together, we create a reliable and supportive therapeutic space, regardless of physical location.